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Friday
Jul152011

{Stolen Moments} 'Magic can be found in stolen moments'

 

Oh my, oh my... It's been a full week. A lot of unexpected circumstance, mixed in with loads of fabulous 'gifts' of goodness.

It seemed to be go, go and go ... some more.  

This weekend is looking pretty much the same! But I promised myself a few stolen moments... to just be and do something for ME.

A little quiet on the front porch.... listening to an audiobook, while I drool over the pages of my new and fav design book, Pale & Interesting! Sounds pretty good, don't you think?

Oh...... the cup ... well, I had to show you all my latest 'score' from Winners!  Isn't it LOVELY? I'm sure 'she' will be making many appearances in future photos.  

'sigh'

How bout, you? Any chance you can steal a few moments of solitude... doing something you love this weekend?

                                                                           — Francesca Lia Block

If you do manage a few moments of solitude.... why not snap a pic and share the link in the comments below? I'd totally love to see!

I'm off.....  but slowly clicking my way thru the pink goodness you all have been sharing!

BRAVO.... truly!

See you on the weekend....for some textured inspiration..... I think you are going to like this week's freebie!

xxo,

p.s.

just a quick story before I go...  

this week I received some of the most lovely emails of encouragement. I love getting your mail! And I'm truly grateful for it. Thank you!

But I did receive one not so nice message.... accusing me of not answering an email. I did in fact answer the email.... she just didn't receive it.  Anyhow, the details aren't important, really.

But, for almost an hour, I stewed over that message....letting it get under my skin

And then I 'snapped' out of it! Why would I let someone I don't know get the better of me.... when I had done nothing wrong?

Why is it we are so quick to listen to the negative? 

Funny how that works!

How bout you....  do you ever catch yourself focusing on the one bad thing someone says or does? Forgetting all the fab things you hear each day?  

I'd love to know I'm not alone.... Maybe we can work on it together.....  

p.s.s.

before we assume someone is ignoring our emails, it is possible technology is letting us down... Not every email lands where it's sent.... :) Just saying...

Reader Comments (31)

Not long ago I was thinking about why we focus on the negative. There can be a ton of encouragement and we zero in on ONE negative comment or action. Then, it occurred to me. We can't help it. From the beginning, in the garden, surround by everything good and positive there was only one thing that was off limits - a no-no! What do you think the focus shifted to? The ONE negative thing. And it has been the same ever since then, unless we do what you did and chose a different focus!

Thanks for all you do and all you shared. I am blessed every time I visit your blog.

Nathalie
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNathalie
good for you for not letting it get the better of you
in this day and age of cyberspace
one cannot try to interpret too much
meaning in other's words or lack of words

it's easy to focus on the negative .. we all tend to do that
I say, give it some thought, spend a little time in it and then
on to things that deserve your time and energy!
Because you and all of us are worth putting time into ourselves!
Happy weekend Kim!
You do great work and are greatly appreciated!
R
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermissing moments
I tend to veer toward the negative too, but I would especially feel like that if I was being accused of something untrue or not in my nature. Try to get past it...you can't please everyone all of the time. As for emails, I've gotten some that were sent a few weeks or a month prior...they just show up out of nowhere...it's so odd when that happens.

Enjoy your stolen moments this weekend :)
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTricia
Oh man, I definately dwell and fret and stew about negative things. I Must learn to cope with this.
Here's my Stolen Moment. Quiet within Quiet.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/49824873@N05/5939895667/in/photostream
Heidi
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterHeidi M.
big hugs and stolen moments to you friend .. technology messes up? YES!
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterelk
I get exactly the same way.. my hubby says I'm too sensitive, why oh why is that guys don't let anything bother them!!! anyways glad to hear you didn't let it bother you too much and snapped out of it.. here is my quiet spot. everyonce in awhile I'll blog from a cafe down the street

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lifeloveandfotografia/5940951795/in/set-72157627078995907
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterolivia
I am always amazed that people will be quick to assume that the other individual is at fault. Perhaps . . . but does it mean that their response has to be negative or unkind? My wonderful family have taught me that it never hurts to be gracious. That wisdom has stayed with me all my life (60 years) and I have never regretted being gracious and kind in any given situation. I hope that those who answer in a most unkind way will take a step back and rethink how they made the other person feel. I truly hope that the caring thoughts of those who have responded will smooth over any thoughtless comments you have experienced.
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDonna M.
unfortunately, we all fall into the "negativity zone" too easily. Why oh why can't we fall into the "positivity zone" as easily??
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJillsy
first time to visit your blog and I really love it :)
nice post

http://girlynote.blogspot.com
July 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterHeba
My private world has been turned upside down at the moment and the greatest joy I have is contributing to TT with you and the many new people I have met through their visual beauties and tapestries of colour. I have been charged out of my space, and trying to find a new one. It doesn't help when I received a month ago a nasty and critizing comment ,it has changed the way of think, create and work on my blog.I'm gradually getting back into it, but I'm facing a visual creative block. Why and What gives these people the right to judge and disturb my space or yours, and you're right I don't know them and they don't know me. So I'm holding my head high and getting back into it, each day more and each stolen moment.! Look forward to another TT next week, have a lovely weekend. x
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenteryvette
I try to follow the quote "life's short" so don't let things like that effect me. It is sad that someone feels that they need to have a go over such a trivial thing. I am doing your skini mini at the moment and really enjoying it, keep up the great work.
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLeanne
Negative words or actions are painful but I try to tell myself that it is not me, it is the person... If I know I did nothing wrong then it must be the person, the issues and attitude he/ she is having and it has nothing to do with me... It helps me to feel better, but it takes some time to get over it... I learnt this from Don Miguel Ruiz (The Four Agreements) :)

And this is my 'stolen moment' in my garden http://www.flickr.com/photos/neringa111/5943629130/

Wish you a great weekend!
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNeringa
I would be upset too because you didn't purposely ignore her and that's something you would never do so to be accused of it would disturb me because it's an obserd accusation. In fact, I wrote you this weekend about my not getting the texture that I look forward to every week for some odd reason (because I always get them) and you got back to me straight away. It's clear in all that you do and post that you are not purposely not returning someones e-mail. Maybe that person has a complex. Maybe they are used to living in the negative and suspect the worst of everyone or everything. I was just thinking before I logged on that I wanted to say thank you so much for all of the free textures that you send our way and your blog. I enjoy getting them and seeing what you are up to. Your free posts, etc. In this day and age it's so nice to see someone so giving, kind hearted and down to earth. It's really refreshing and encouraging! In fact my family and I were in Door County, WI and my husband brought up how nice Canada is, I told him about you living there (or so I thought you had mentioned that a time or two), what you do. It's like having a friend in a far off place. Keep up the great work and as hard as it is, try to let this persons negative accusation roll off your shoulders. You know you would never do it...it's sillly really. Besides, it's your life and if you didn't want to answer everyones e-mails ~ that's your perogative (even though that's not what you did). Your not obligated to anyone! Anyway, all the best to you!
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLisa
P.S. I would show you a pic of my stolen moment in Door County but my husband and I had a round on the way there on whether we were going all the way through or not and when we got there I was so negative that I didn't take any pictures because I didn't want photos reminding me of how mad I was and guess what...I so wish I would have taken them of the kids on the water because they had the best time and I guess we all ended up having a good time! It just goes to show how you can take a small negative moment and turn it into a long negative event and even regret!! Even my kids were disappointed there are no pics to capture our stolen moment. :( I sure need to work on my negativity it seems. Thanks for the reminder!
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLisa
Hi Kim,
Found your blog via Raining Umbrellas course. Your interview was so inspiring! I have been wanting to try photoshop elements for years but allowed other's needs to always come before mine or was too afraid I couldn't successfully handle the technology. After reading your interview and listening to your podcast, I went out and bought it!!! I was actually excited that I finally took a step forward for myself instead of standing still in one place. Once I get things set up, I am going to take one of your classes. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and encouraging others. Forget the negative comment...not worth wasting your precious time!!!!
Enjoy the weekend and those quiet moments,
Angela
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAngela Vular
Hi Kim,
I just wanted to thank you for your photos, creativity, lovely textures and courses. I've been home for several months now with ill health and your blog and all of the above have helped me fill my days and feel better.
Don't worry about the one negative comment (easily said because I would have gotten uptight about it too!), put it aside, it's HER problem, not yours. She should be thankful for all she has and that you give so freely.
I try to find one positive thought or image every day and fill my mental Pandora's box with these instead of negative things, which sadly are much easier. It helps me get through every day. I've started writing them down so I can see how blessed I am. Something similar to your stolen moment. Enjoy your 'moments' and know you mean something positive to a lot of us out here!
Have a wonderful weekend and thank you.
Jenni
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJenni
Hi Kim, I'm just catching up on your lovely blog..I'm enjoying the Skinny Mini course, thankyou so much...I wanted to share with you an article I wrote on my other blog... http://healingwithruth.blogspot.com/2011/07/gratitude.html

I think the rude emailer has some insecurities, which sometimes come across in such defensive or harsh attitudes. I always find your attitude to be one of gratitude and good grace, you're so generous too!

Keep up the good work, we often seem to focus on the one problem instead of the many good things, I think can be a good thing if we can use it to look inside ourselves and find what button they pressed? Then work through the feelings and come back to lovingly approving of yourself!

Best wishes to you for a lovely weekend Kim, Ruth x
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterRH West
I agree with Nathalie, we have to choose to focus on the positive! I'm so glad you made that choice, Kim! I tend to be rather cynical, but I try to force myself to always give people the benefit of the doubt... I'm always blessed when I succeed in doing so! And ditto what many of the others said: YOU ARE APPRECIATED !
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJune Scott
I think with all of today's technologies, it is so easy for someone to be rude to a person they don't see face-to-face. Growing up I was made fun of and teased, even by my parents. In my 20's and 30's I so desperately wanted people to like me. Now at the age of 47 I am happily married with an 11yo daughter and 7 yo son and they are the only ones that I NEED to like me. As for everyone else, I'm polite and try not to offend anyone, but if they don't like me....I'm good with it, if someone is rude, I ignore them and honestly don't think about it....ok, I don't think about it after a few days :D I know one time I sent you an email regarding a problem I had with a download, you responded to it immediately and included the free texture I was having a problem with. It worked and I never thanked you, so thank you very much...I think it was the kk_portrait, which is an awesome texture.
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTeresa Schmid
Kim, sometimes I am one of those who focuses too much on the negative. Lately though, the Lord has been encouraging me to think of 2 or 3 blessings for every negative thought. I'm not always successful, but it does help!

Here is a link to my "stolen moments" photo(s) -- my Hubby and I spend our days working hard in wood-chipping type facility and are sooo close to this beach, yet not able to visit very often. These photos were taken during our first visit there this summer.
http://kimzphotoblog.blogspot.com/2011/07/scenes-from-anchor-point-beach.html?m=1
July 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterkimBinAK
Hi Kim,
I have just come across your post and totally agree with you. I used to focus on negatives so much that I could not see how much good is around us. I also let negative comments get to me in the past. But one of my best friends said to me once "don't waste your time on people who make you unhappy, save the energy on those who you love..." So true:)
Some time ago I also wrote a blog about not being beaten by negativity and be careful when choosing the words while speaking to other people:
http://imagesinfocus.co.uk/blog/2011/05/tread-softly/
Vanda x
July 17, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterVanda Ralevska
Kim, You are such a giving person. I really appreciate all the freebies and advice you give. If it wasn't for you, I'd still be admiring everyone else's textured photos with no idea what to do. I hope you will just ignore any negative words that come your way. Hit delete and move on and remember that you've made a difference with countless people. We all love and appreciate you!
July 17, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterdeb
There are always negative people out there and from time to time it will be focused on you. I used to react quickly and get fired up, but now I found that you need to just ignore it and sleep on it, and sometimes circumstances change. The next day you realize that the person really was in the wrong and it was her fault, but you didn't lose sleep over it. Or, sometimes I found out that I jumped the gun on my anger and they didn't mean that at all, it was just my interpretation. Over the years I've learned that ignoring something can be a powerful tool.
July 17, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterPeggy karrasch
I'm so lovng your site and your blog. I'm taking the skinny mini ecourse and having such fun. I'm sorry someone had to be so nasty to you. It is easier, for some reason, to let the negative get to us... I'm glad you were able to shake it off. Blessings!
July 17, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterStacey Dawn
Love the shot. I was also listening to an audio book this weekend here and there. I was also reading and drooling over this fabulous book I won "Expressive Photography" The Shutter Sisters' Guide to Shooting from the Heart...I was so happy that I won this book. I'm sure you've heard of it...LOL! It's fabulous and inspiring and who knows maybe when I've had my fill of it, maybe, just maybe I'll pass it forward.

I'm sorry to hear that you received a not so nice email. My business partner and I had something similar happen to us last week. A customer bought a mold from us and used it improperly and demanded her money back. Normally, we ask for them to return the item back to us before a refund, but for whatever reasons we went ahead and refunded her money. She then proceeds to tell us that the mold wasn't ruined, that she just didn't understand the instructions...WOW...lesson learned...Don't go against your own policies! Anyway, she was a bit snooty to us and we were a little upset, but realized we did nothing wrong and what else can you do but get over it and learn from your lesson. So the best of luck to her and fabulous Karma to us :D.

I hope your weekend was wonderful, looking forward to Texture Tuesday.

Bright blessings,
Kathy
July 17, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKathy Jones
Hi Kim,

I was just stopping by to see what this topic is for Texture Tuesday and I read your post. Recently I had someone be so rude to me and I had done nothing wrong also. You are right about letting a negative steal our joy. I wrestled with they why would someone do that, until I realized that there are people in the world who are caught up in finding blame, losing their temper and behaving badly. Perhaps it isn't even the technical difficulty, but maybe they were just difficult people.

I am so glad that you also received lovely e-mails because you are lovely. My friend and I were just discussing your wonderful way of teaching and how you have literally changed the way we use our cameras and textures. You are a doll, and you have contact with so many people who enjoy your work.

Karen

http://www.flickr.com/photos/7374469@N02/5949063142
July 18, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterkaren
I can't imagine anyone getting upset with you. You are the most generous person I know. You posts are so lovely, I always get excited when I see a new post from you. Thank you for all your tips, skinny-mini classes and textures. I have fallen in love with photography and photoshop!
July 18, 2011 | Unregistered Commentercindy
Hello Sweet Kim,

Your always giving and I truly can understand why it gets under your skin. Darn technology. It's because you care and work so hard at all that you do. Hang in there my friend, I'll be here for you.

Warmly with Hugs,
Karla
July 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKarla
You're not alone - I way too often listen to the one negative instead of all the positive. I'm working on NOT doing that, and I think I'm getting better, but it sneaks up on me sometimes. So I'm just tryingto get better at catching myself and pulling out those nasty weeds. (I'm sure you've already been assured of that a dozen times now, but thought I'd give you one more.)
July 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBarbara
Gosh I tend to do the same thing and stew over every little thing. I need to take a deep breath and follow some of the advice here!! Some people tend to jump the gun and then the words spoken cannot be taken back. Life is too short so have to keep reminding myself. Your blog is wonderful and your work amazing!!
July 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAngela
You know for what it's worth, I feel like I've sent my share of emails your way these past few months since I began reading your blog and taking your courses, and you always respond in a kind and timely manner. It breaks my heart that somebody's negativity could upset you so much, but you know they probably have their own battles they are confronting. You put out so much positive warmth into the universe, and people clearly respond to you. I've been unemployed now for almost a year and your blog and my photography are some of the few things that have kept me sane. Seriously. So I hope you can continue to focus on all these positive things we are saying here :D
July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJessie

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